it's about the 2 of you, really
lazy psychedelia
Yah, rrright.
There are 2s alright, but note the plural, the collective in that. 2 families, their desires and assumptions. 2 extended sets of relatives, colleagues and friends. And 2 objectives, namely yours and your family's. Yours (if like J and I, you are also very lazy and have a general dislike for rituals) will be to just get this whole thing over and done with, with everyone having as relaxing and enjoyable a time as possible. While your folks' concerns, despite all good intentions and well wishes, will be to tread successfully the minefield of relatives and their sensitivities. This, the Chinese call, maintaining "face".
In such a situation, lazy us will typically opt for the path of least resistance - i.e. give the folks what they want. But we stand firm on these things which are way too personal for compromises.
1. No expensive diamond rings - why does a girl/boy need diamonds?
2. No wedding costumes, white or ivory - it's not halloween, we'll come as ourselves, thank you. And ditto for guests (although if costumes are your thing, please feel free to come in whatever pleases you). Oh yes, this means there'll be no multiple costume changes throughout the day.
3. No bouquets. Sorry, if you are waiting to catch one.
4. No pre-wedding photographs with dewy-eyed poses or sepia-tinged romance. Hey, we're hobbyist-illustrators, we can do our own portraits anytime.
5. No transportation decked out as national day floats.
6. No marching down aisles or whatever. But we'll be there!
We've only just started thinking about it, and it already seems like too much work!
So friends, sorry if these t-shirts and stuff we had earlier promised for Christmas are a little late in production.
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i hope you'll at least share some pictures here at that later date -- i want to appreciate the aesthetics then in more than just my own imagination.
. . . and "face" can also be a 2: as in "two-faced" :)
Er ... don't forget that trivial little thing called the wedding certificate, hor? That one cannot say "no need".
i think you two will be happier and glad to be wearing whatever that pleases yourselves for that day.
as for superficialities? after being present for much of my friends' wedding and weddings, i guess i would only do it in order to celebrate superficialities for its superficialitiestiestiestiesties
I went to a wedding where the bride wore a purple dress. she looked magnificent.
yes yes, i think some of the superficialities are actually quite fun...er, if we have the time in like...6 weeks! stuff like gold hot-stamped invite cards...ooh, i like. also champagne.
we've got a few funny photo-illustrations to show too, in lieu of those pre-wedding studio shots. hehe, we promise some "costumes" in those illustrations!